One of the great things about gay sex is the give and take between the top and the bottom, while much has been written on how to be a good top as it is perceived that these men do most of the work, tips for being a good bottom and so ensuring a satisfying sexual experience for both parties is thin on the ground. So, here are some great tips on being the best bottom you can be.
Gay Sex – Top and Bottoms
It may be helpful to look at the roles of top and bottom before going any further. A top is the partner that uses his nice hard penis to push into the nice ass of the bottom. Many gay men have a preference to being a ‘top’ or a ‘bottom’ often seen as the more dominant role, the top often is in charge and decides on the mood, pace and delivery of the sexual satisfaction. Some gay men are happy in any event and are known as versatile or ‘vers’ and will play top or bottom depending on the choice of the other partner. Bottoms are often seen as being submissive, this is especially true in a BDSM environment. There is no defined role for top and bottom and the lines between are thankfully becoming much more blurred and so more exciting gay sex can take place.
Finding a good bottom
If you are a top and you want to find a bottom then using websites like www.gayscene.org to post a personal about what you are looking for is a great place to start, similarly finding a gay escort who will meet your needs is often the best answer for fulfilling but non-committal gay sex and the best gay escorts can be found at www.sleepyboy.com.
Good Bottom Tips
Communication, and good communication is always the best tip for any great gay sex experience so don’t be too restrictive in what you are looking for in a good bottom and you may be surprised at how exciting gay sex can be. Be clear about what you are looking for, if you are just simply looking for a submissive bottom to do exactly what you say then be clear about that. Similarly, for the bottom, clarity about what you like, if you are a bottom but like to control the action, ensure you say this clearly and you will find the right top for you.
Experience is everything, what you would expect from an experienced partner is not the same as one who has had little or no experience so be truthful and be sensitive to the needs of the bottom you want to play with. If this is quite new to them then more checking throughout that they are happy with what is happening will let you be a great top as you can help them find what they like too! If you are an inexperienced bottom, then letting your partner know this and sending them signals about what is good for your before and during sex is important.
Gay Sex is Amazing
Whether you are a top or a bottom, with great communication and respect for each other, gay sex is an incredible experience, one to be repeated, time after time.